Comments on: 5 Essential Communication Skills For Conflict Resolution

By: Sophia

Sophia — Fri, 12 Apr 2013 20:39:18 +0000

So cute Bruce! I laughed and smiled all through the video and I think you are so right! I actually sometimes say to husband that I just want him to say that I’m the best and stuff like that, and he says “but you already know that”. i’ll show him the video, maybe he’ll get it.
Spring greetings from Denmark

By: L. J.

L. J. — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 06:52:05 +0000

Thank you so much for replying. I will definitely want to apply this. Especially now that I have cancer. I really have to learn how to manage stress. Every day is a learning process. Thank you. God bless you.

By: Bruce Muzik

Bruce Muzik — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 06:06:16 +0000

Same steps L.J.

Work to discover why you are angry with that person. What your underlying fear is, what your positive intention is and what their positive intention is. Do as much of the work yourself before sharing with the person you’re angry with. By the time you’ve gone through this process, you may not even be angry anymore as you realize that it is ALL you!

By: L. J.

L. J. — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 13:19:09 +0000

I really appreciate these tips. I am happy and excited to apply them. I was just wondering how will I be able to achieve a successful conversation if I am the one who is angry to a certain person. What if it is the other way around? Do you have any tips for that? Thank you.

By: Bruce Muzik

Bruce Muzik — Sun, 22 Jan 2012 11:08:21 +0000

Hi Raeleen,

I’ve been thinking about my response above all weekend and the more I think about it the more I wouldn’t have said what I said.

I’d rather say to the complainer, “What is it inside you that gets triggered when your partner does not take the trash out?” and then look for the underlying fear. Then I’d ask the partner “What is it inside you that gets triggered when you’re asked to take the trash out and you don’t?”

From there, a honest communication can ensue about the underlying motives that trigger the heated emotions. The upset on each side has nothing to do with the trash and everything to do with the couple’s unacknowledged fears.

There you have it. My 4th cent!

By: Bruce Muzik

Bruce Muzik — Sun, 22 Jan 2012 10:56:05 +0000

Not so much a wedding ring as a commitment ring. Chelsea and I exchange new rings with each other every month or every time we see each other (as we live in different countries for the moment).

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By: Liza

Liza — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 13:49:49 +0000

As usual NEVER a boring moment with Bruce Muzik:-)
And………..the wedding ring Bruce???
Anything you would care to share with us?

By: Dale Burrell

Dale Burrell — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 01:46:14 +0000

Very good Bruce, although from my own experience I find it easy to do those things when I’m not triggered, but it takes a currently unknown factor to allow me to do them when I’ve been triggered. Pure willpower, or just plain knowing I should is not enough in the moment.

By: Raeleen

Raeleen — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 16:05:35 +0000

Thanks so much Bruce, This was helpful follow up.