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Before I get to not one but *TWO* big, embarrassing confessions (hell, I’d rather not get to them at all…) let me ask you a question to make myself feel better:

Tell me something…

Have you ever met someone who you felt might be “the one” and then totally “blown it” with them?

Maybe you thought you really had a “chance” of being together forever?

But somewhere along the line, something went WRONG… the chemistry between you was electrifying at first, but over time your connection faded and you began to argue with each other.

Then, either:

  1. one of you ended the relationship… OR
  2. you’re still with him/her, but you feel stuck – feeling trapped or alone in a relationship filled with tension and fuzzy communication.

Either way, here comes my embarrassing CONFESSION #1:

Not only have both of these disasters happened to ME more than just once or twice, but…

Truth is, I went through YEARS of soul-crushing heartbreak, as relationship after relationship eventually broke down – over and over again… so much that it finally became UNBEARABLE to me.

To make matters worse…

I later got married, only to end up divorced 5 short years later.

“Why are relationships so hard?” I’d ask myself… and in my more lonely moments, “What’s wrong with me?”

After my divorce, I was so disillusioned with long term relationships that I decided to start my life again, move to the Caribbean and enjoy “playing the field” as a single man.

No more commitment add no more heartbreak for me.

At least, that’s what I thought…

Until I met Amy (not her real name).

From the second we laid eyes on each other, the chemistry between us was electric.

At first, I kept her at arms length, telling her “I don’t want a committed relationship. I’m recently divorced.”

But before I knew it, my heart melted and I was in love.

I was convinced I had finally met “the one.”

After a few months of bliss, our intense passion became replaced with tension and arguments that left us both feeling sad and alone.

We began walking on eggshells around each other… avoiding “dangerous” topics of conversation that might spark an upset.

It took another few months before she BROKE UP with me saying, those dreaded words,
“I love you, but I’m not in love with you.”

I don’t have to tell you… My heart was crushed.

My SECOND embarrassing confession…

…is that despite my decades of personal development work, I was an emotional wreck for months.

I’d stay awake at night trying to stop myself texting her, so that I didn’t appear desperate. Then I’d give in and stare at my phone in the darkness for hours, waiting for her to reply.

The next morning I’d wake up, immediately reach for my phone, and when I saw that she had not gotten back to me, I’d stay in bed all day, feeling too sorry for myself to face the day without her love.

Yep, I went from being a successful, internationally recognized public speaker living the dream, to being a needy mess.

Such is the power of LOVE that it brought me to my knees.

I knew that my unresolved relationship patterns were following me around like a secret assassin sabotaging my romances one by one.

Only, this time, I refused to take it lying down.

Instead, I chose to FIGHT for LOVE. Whatever it took, I was determined to win Amy back.

So, I began studying relationship psychology day and night. The pile of relationship books next to my bed grew taller and taller every week.

My first BIG “AHA moment” came when I discovered that ALL romantic relationships go through 3 basic stages:

Romance > Power Struggle > Mature Love

Most relationships never make it past the Power Struggle stage into Mature Love, because they either break up or stay stuck there.

I recognized that Amy and I had reached our Power Struggle stage.

Armed with this insight and relentless determination, I began figuring out how to get past the Power Struggle stage – with the hope that I could win her back in the process.

I enlisted the help of a top relationship coach and even trained and got certified as a relationship coach myself.

It took me SIX long and humbling months before Amy felt close enough to me to come back.


But our victory was short lived because 2 months later, we broke up again – this time because she didn’t believe that she could be in a relationship without losing herself.

I was beginning to think that relationships were like an unsolvable “magic trick” or something…

Thankfully, the new skills I had learned came in handy and before long we were reunited again.

Phew again… that was a close shave.

This incarnation of our relationship lasted a year before Amy left for the last time – moving to a different country in the process.

By this point, my determination was wavering and our friends were telling us to move on and find an easier relationship.

“Come on Bruce, 3 breakups? Find someone who wants to be with you…”, they told me, concerned that I was codependent and stuck.

On the other hand, Amy’s family were telling her that love should not be this hard and that they didn’t think we were a good match.

But I wasn’t giving up that easily…

In my heart, I knew that this would be our final battle in our Power Struggle.
We would either emerge victorious, hand in hand or we would be over – for good.

Armed with open hearts and separated by thousands of miles, we began working through our differences, talking every day on Skype.

With each other’s help, I faced my fears of being abandoned and Amy faced her fears of losing herself in a committed relationship.

Long story short…

It took us 2 months, but we finally reunited on the other side of our Power Struggle stage.

If you can relate to being stuck in the Power Struggle stage, I feel you.

You can take comfort in the knowledge that it is not your fault…

At school, you were never taught you how to make love work as a team – especially once the romance fades and is replaced by conflict.

We were taught to be independent and survive on our own.

If I’ve learned one thing about healing a broken relationship, it’s that trying to do it on your own is like trying to swim out of quicksand – the more you try the deeper you sink.

The only way out is to find someone to pull you out with a rope.

Like sinking in quicksand, it is almost impossible to save your relationship on your own – not because you’re not smart enough, but because you’re too close to it to see it objectively.

You need someone to throw you a rope – an outside perspective from an expert in relationship conflict who has walked the path before you.

And that’s why I’m writing to you – to throw you that rope.

Making your relationship work is not a mystery. You don’t have to be “lucky in love.” You just have to know the recipe.

Those TWO tough years I spent figuring out the Power Struggle stage and winning Amy back taught me the recipe and made me an expert at turning conflict into deep, loving connection.

Ironically, my embarrassing love life has been the greatest gift – a gift I am excited to share with you.

I discovered certain relationship secrets and skills that re-connect lovers and ignite the flames of love and passion between them.

These are proven skills that I have invested hundreds of hours figuring out, testing and teaching.

Without learning them, your relationship will probably stay stuck in the Power Struggle stage, or worse still, break up.

Love At First FightTo help you save your relationship from staying stuck in the Power Struggle stage, I condensed everything I learned into my flagship online program called the “Love At First Fight” coaching program.

It’s clear, in-depth, INSTANTLY VIEWABLE and designed to get YOU both connecting, heal your relationship from Power Struggles and create a lifetime of love together.

You don’t have to go anywhere to do it; it’s an online experience. All you need is an internet connection and a phone.

If your relationship is shaky right now, or could use an injection of passion, then this program is the answer…

The next “Love At First Fight” coaching program begins soon. It runs for 7 weeks and I’d love you to join us.

This program is the only place I know where you can get the skills… including step-by-step instructions… on how to leave the Power Struggle behind… and start “making” love… instead of feeling lost and alone wishing for it to return.

Even if your partner doesn’t want to participate, you can single-handedly transform your relationship (or marriage) TODAY by applying what I’m going to show you.

Let’s face it…

…if you do nothing and your current relationship turns out like your previous ones, you’ll probably end up single and alone again.

But like I did, you also have the choice to take a stand for your relationship – to take a stand for having the love you want in your life with the partner you’ve already chosen..

Join me (and other couples just like you) on the next program.

P.S. Your relationship will be the best or worst investment you’ll ever make… and only YOU get to decide. Make it the best one.

P.P.S. Not in a relationship? Why not share this post with a friend whose relationship may be facing troubled times?

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