This is a continuation of the series of posts about my healing process after Amy and I split up. If you haven’t yet read part 1 and part 2, I recommend you do so after reading this.
After spinning into the depths of despair when my girlfriend (Amy) broke up with me last month, I’m on the up and up again. This is good news!
The easy thing to do would have been to take my foot off the gas after having experienced so much pain, but I know that NOW is the best time to do the important work of turning myself inside out to ensure that I don’t repeat the same patterns in my next relationship.
My ex-wife stepped in to support me healing and recommended I re-read Harville Hendrix’s book, “Getting The Love You Want.” It was an eye opener, so much so that I want to dedicate a post to what I learned from this extraordinary relationship therapist…
Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting to the same type of relationship over and over again, even when you don’t want to? Read the rest of this entry
I truly believe that being vulnerable is the most effective way to experiencing satisfaction in life. When I watched this TEDx talk by Brene Brown, I was moved by her research into Vulnerability. I'm sharing it here becasue I believe you'll get a lot out of it.
This blog post is a stretch for me. It’s a stretch because it’s raw and vulnerable as hell. I actually considered starting another blog under a pseudonym so that I could write my deepest thoughts and feelings anonymously, but then I realized that was a cop out.
If I let fear of judgment get in the way of expressing who I am and what I’m learning, how will this blog ever be of service to you?
So, here goes…
Have you ever felt like you’ve had your heart ripped out from deep inside you when a romantic relationship comes to an end?
I just got this great question in from one of my personal coaching clients and I wanted to share it with you as I think you’ll find it useful…
Bruce, in spirit of tapping into more of your wisdom, what are some of the techniques you’ve used personally or have seen work well in others to snap out of down times?I’ve just had 1.5 days of feeling quite down. I’ve done some good analysis on it and one of my actions from it was to ask you the question above.
Techniques/Things that have worked well for me in the past have included:
Exercise / swimming
Calling a friend
Writing in my diary
Listening to great music
Let me know! I have a sense you’ll have some great insights.
OK, I did a really dumb thing last night, filmed it and found a way to squeeze a valuable lesson out of it...
P.S. Please leave me a comment and let me know what you're going to let go of as a result of watching the video.
P.P.S. If you missed the incredibly valuable teleseminar I recorded with Hannes Dreyer and Mike Handcock last week, make sure you listen to it or download it here.
Tonight was utterly amazing and you deserve great praise for your efforts. Your seminar is absolutely what I have been needing to do for months. My most sincere thanks for taking me through several barriers tonight. Clive Harvey Fox, South Africa