How To Stop Trying To Love Yourself, And Start Being Happy
Having spent a lot of my 20’s and early 30’s battling mild depression, I’ve read far too many self-help books in an attempt to figure out why I was miserable with my wonderful life.
At some point, almost every book cited self esteem as the problem and learning to love yourself as the miracle cure for unhappiness.
Not one of the books actually had a step-by-step prescription for how to love yourself.
So, the question I’ve been asking myself for years is:
Exactly how the fuck am I supposed to love myself?
Do I wake up in the morning and hug myself?
Do I look at myself in the mirror (with puppy-dog eyes) and repeat the mantra “I love you, Bruce. I love you, man. You’re awesome!” over and over until I believe myself?
Do I give myself long warm baths and take myself for a massage once a week?
I can tell you, I’ve tried all of these… and although some of them temporarily made me feel better, none of them ever made me love myself any more or magically altered my self esteem at all. Read the rest of this entry