F#ck Self Love
How to stop wasting your time trying to love yourself, and start being happy instead.
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In 2002, I lived in an African ghetto as the only white man – for six months. Here is the story of what I learned there. Both an honor and terrifying, this is easily one of the most raw presentations I’ve ever done.
“Bruce, your TED talk moved me to tears…
and I can count the times I have cried on one hand.”
BRUCE AT A GLANCE
WHO AM I?
I’m a relationship repair specialist, trainer and keynote speaker. I’m obsessed with understanding romantic relationships and helping couples stop fighting and get on the same team together.
Through my courses, each year I help tens of thousands of couples fix their relationship struggles and save their marriages.
HOW CAN I HELP YOU?
If your relationship feels rocky, the easiest way to start fixing things is to sign up for my free relationship repair emails.
WHAT I BELIEVE
I believe human beings were designed to pair bond. Research shows that we’re simply better as a team.
Yet like in a 3-legged race, a happy relationship requires that you synchronize your steps and learn to run in time together. Otherwise, you both trip, fall and get hurt.
Unfortunately, our culture doesn’t support this kind of healthy 3-legged inter-dependence, but instead places independence on a pedestal. There’s nothing wrong with independence, unless you want a loving partnership. For that, you need to be able to depend on each other in a way that makes you both stronger.
HOW MY APPROACH IS DIFFERENT
New discoveries by relationship researchers are showing that relationship struggles are not caused by bad communication, but rather by a lack of safe emotional connection.
Instead of trying to fix a couple’s relationship problems by talking, I first help the couple feel safely connected like they did when they were falling in love. Only then does talking actually resolve anything.
Your work has helped us understand each other, communicate more effectively and avoid the daily friction and pain. Thank you so much Bruce, we couldn’t be happier.
Bruce, your relationship advice is outstanding. You’ve helped me uncover the things I really need to work on in relationship and shown me a way through the difficult times.
Thank you so much for all of the time and energy you put into our relationship. Our marriage has gone from very rocky, with us both being hurt and resentful, to a deep love that I didn’t think was possible.